Lessons on Fear

The Consequence of Thought – Part Deux

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I’ve experienced a profound increase in the amount of happiness in my life, due to my active decision to change the way that I think. But that’s not the reason that I initially chose to do so – that was just a side-effect.

No, my reason for changing my thought pattern was because the books that I was reading on bettering my life all pointed to one, recurring concept: that what you choose to think about will, over time, make it’s way into your real-world experience.

Put simply into an example, thinking appreciatively about the money that you do have will lead to more money in the bank. Thinking woefully about the debt that you can’t pay will land you more debt.


While this might sound like psycho-spiritual babble, it’s not.

Yes, there are those who claim that the Universe aligns itself to give you what you think about most. I can’t say whether there’s any truth to this or not – honestly, I’m too stupid to understand the way the universe works, and I’m too smart to say that I know definitively what powers do and don’t exist out there.

But I do know that there are miraculous ways in which our subconscious minds seem to work, of which science is starting to explore.

Here’s the Theory

I believe that whatever you choose to think about most often, your mind will subconsciously lead you towards the physical realization of that thought.

Care for an example? Many people notice that, when they’re single and feeling lonely, they never seem to attract a mate. But the second they enter into a relationship, they receive all sorts of interest. I believe that this is because the mind is constantly dwelling on the feelings of new love, and thus tends to cause you to behave a bit differently, on a microscopic level. When you’re depressed, you might think that you act the same as you always do, but your mind causes you to make subconscious decisions that it knows will give you more of what you dwell upon.

This same concept is what I believe plays a part in why the rich often get richer, and the poor seem to stay right where they’re at.

You could argue that this is all a confidence thing…but what is confidence, other than someone who chooses to constantly focus on the positives of their situation?

Many athletes and coaches emphasize the use of positive visualization (a.k.a. daydreaming about victory) before a big event. By doing this, your subconscious mind sees what you’re consciously focused on, so it secretly leads you to take the right steps and measures to get to that goal. Many people misleadingly believe that most of our decisions are conscious ones. But it’s really our deep, subconscious minds that dictate the bulk of what we do and how we act – we just like to think we’re in control.

It’s almost as if our ability to daydream was evolved as a means for our ancient ancestors to achieve what they needed to survive – i.e. orienting the mind to pick up clues as to where they could find their next meal.

And with that in mind, I feel it necessary to point out that our neanderthal brethren probably didn’t persistently worry about the stupid things that we do today – they more or less lived in the moment.

If That Doesn’t Make Sense…

No big deal. Honestly, the only person that I have to convince of all this is myself, and I’ve seen too many odd “coincidences” lately to really go back to the way I used to view my mind. But in case you would like to learn more about all of this, then here’s a list of the resources that I’ve personally found to be beneficial:

  • The Law of Attraction – Jerry & Esther Hicks: This book might be tough to get into, as it starts out by saying some stuff that many might find to be bizarre. But if you can judge the tree by it’s fruit, so to speak, then this might prove to be the most influential book you’ll ever read, as it was for me. Seriously, I wouldn’t be who or where I am today, if I hadn’t read this…not sure if that makes it any more attractive or not.
  • Think and Grow Rich – Napoleon Hill: People have used this as a guide for kickstarting their lives for decades. In fact, it was first published in 1937, and some of the wealthiest, “most successful” people on earth still swear by it to this day. Don’t worry, it’s still a surprisingly easy read. As for the title, don’t worry – this book pertains to so much more than financial wealth.
  • The Secret – Rhonda Byrne: This book was how I first learned about all of these concepts. It’s pretty much an excellent introduction to the Law of Attraction for anyone who hasn’t been exposed to it before. I began with the movie, which (the last time I checked) was still on Netflix.
  • Thought Vibration – William W. Atkinson: Another one that was published in the early 1900s, this book is still a surprisingly easy read. I would, however, recommend first reading one or more of the other three books listed above, as this one might scare away anybody who doesn’t understand the underlying principles he’s discussing.


  • Carol D'Amico

    I am glad you are consistently happier. Could some of these coincidences possibly be from God? You need to know that many, many people are consistently praying for you. ;including me as often as I think about you…..I do believe that if you expect good things that they happen. Is this faith? Faith in your won ability to control situations by your believing in what you desire or faith in an outside power that really is intervening and is concerned with your welfare?

    • Benjamin D'Amico

      No, I don’t believe that it is from God.

      At least, not God in the way that most people see it. But that’s simply a belief of mine, which doesn’t mean that it’s right. In fact, nobody can say for sure whether their beliefs are right or wrong (as that’s the nature of a belief), so I would never try to push my own on anyone. This was me just speaking on the way in which our minds work.

      I do, however, think that there may be something to the who prayer thing, so I certainly do appreciate it! Thanks Mumvy, I love you.

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